BY: Charla Puccino
Something that's often learned quickly after leaving the proverbial nest is that life can suddenly feel rather chaotic. Because of this, it can be easy to feel bogged down with everything you have to do on a daily basis, especially when you become a full-time employee. Some of us therefore may have the tendency to forget that we have other responsibilities outside of the office, including but not limited to the relationships we maintain. However, it's incredibly essential to learn to find a balance between work and and your relationships if you hope the relationship lasts for the long run.
Let’s face it: no relationship, or marriage, is perfect all of the time, but here are some great ideas on how to help get yours as close to perfect as possible.
Leave work at work:
Try your best not to bring your work home with you. According to fulfillingyourvows.com “While you may talk about how your day went, bringing work home to complete after a full day away from each other is an energy drainer,” and total mood killer. Tomorrow is another day, so don’t stress if you have unfinished work; it shouldn’t take priority over time that could be spent with your spouse.
Turn off your phone:
Getting into the habit of turning your cell phone off when you get home is a fool-proof way to make you more available and attentive to your partner. If you’re worried about family and friends trying to reach you, you can leave your phone on, but at least put it down out of sight. Nowadays email, texts, calls, and social media are all easily and immediately accessed through our phones which causes them to be a distraction. We have to ask ourselves what is more important: intimacy, or Instagram?
Go on dates:
Going out to dinner, traveling, and trying new things seems like the norm until you’re married. A few years down the road, date nights literally become just Netflix and chill. Rather than enjoying a night out, you’re both struggling to stay awake past 10 p.m.
Want to avoid this? Make a habit of having date nights. Set aside a day and time to go on a date so the relationship doesn’t become dull. We’re all tired after a long week of work, and yes finding a reliable babysitter can be a bitch, but we have to schedule some time for fun and romance. If you're married, consider all of the time, energy, and money that went into planning your wedding; a small fraction of that should be invested into the relationship on a regular basis.
Be flexible and communicate
Understand that maintaining balance between work and the relationship is likely new to both of you. Living together and sharing a space with someone can be exhilarating, but also overbearing. Communicate with each other. If you need time to decompress before diving into a lengthy conversation, vocalize those needs.
Intimacy means you and your partner know each other incredibly well, and it isn’t always pretty. Living with someone 24/7 means you’ve been stripped of the perfect personas you share with most everyone else on social media.
Life is an ever-changing balancing act, compact with both wonderful times and hard times. The easiest way to get through everything life throws at us is to do it with the people we care about most. The best way to balance work and life is to prioritize, communicate, and schedule time to focus on ourselves, and our relationships.