By: Urvi Patel
Communication, when done right, deepens our relationships with friends and family, coworkers, and even ourselves. It's time to drop poor communication habits and pick up invaluable ones that will help lessen our adult stress levels. The dos and don'ts of communicating like an adult will focus on our basic verbal and nonverbal communication.
Close your mouth and open your ears.
DO listen before responding.
DON'T interrupt while someone is speaking.
Are you really listening?
DO nod your head or give nonverbal indicators to show attentiveness.
DON'T fidget or play with your phone.
Put your running shoes on and get to the point.
DO be direct without being rude.
DON'T let a problem build up in your head.
Curiosity didn't kill the cat.
DO ask questions to show interest!
DON'T ask only yes/no questions.
What did you say?
DO speak clearly.
DON'T rush your words.
Look at me.
DO make eye contact.
DON'T frown so often! :)
Facebook vs. Face-to-Face
DO make an effort to meet people face-to face.
DON'T rely solely on social media or texting to maintain relationships.
What did you mean?
DO seek clarification when uncertain about a message.
DON'T assume intentions when texting, messaging, or social media-ing.
DO seek to understand a disagreement.
DON'T get too defensive too fast.
Communication can be difficult, but it doesn’t have to be impossible. When combining nonverbal communication skills with attentive listening and genuine curiosity, we have the ability to live drama-free lives with authentic relationships socially and professionally. To read up more on effective communication, check out Effective Communication Skills and please share your stories below of when a DO or a DON’T of communicating like an adult either helped or hindered an relationship.